Listening (AUDIO 1): 10mins, 46 sec
Listening (AUDIO 2): 6mins, 57sec
Reading time: 3 mins
OUTLINE
1. Introduction.
2. The pros and cons of having a role model / mentor.
3. You Should Have a Standard.
4. I don’t have a role model / mentor… so what?
INTRODUCTION
Before discussing the topic for today, I will highlight briefly, who a role model, and a mentor are, in the audio below:
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AUDIO 1
Having listened to that brief explanation, can it be said that having a role model or mentor, does not come with its pros and cons? Absolutely not!! This is why I will be highlighting below, two pros and two cons similar to both a role model and a mentor. They are:
PROS
1. POSITIVE IMPACT: A “good” role model or mentor either farmiliar or unfamiliar, can impact positively on their admirers (in the case of a role model), and mentees / protege( in the case of a mentor).
2. MOTIVATION: You are spurred into action to being a better version of yourself, or even in some cases, better than your role model or mentor.
CONS
Excessive admiration of a role model or a mentor, can sometimes result in an obsession with them, which could lead to a loss of identity of the admirer or the mentee. Also, role models and mentors are not perfect human beings, they are flawed and this could result in them exuding some bad habits, or negative traits, generally. In this light, two cons are briefly explained below:
1. Loss of identity: While imitating a role model, some people lose their identities. The tendency to directly imitate their role model’s hair styles, dressing, even walking steps, is very high. There is nothing bad in wanting to imitate your role model, but when it is extreme to the point of losing yourself, then it is bad.
2. Bad Habits: It is very easy to adopt a role model’s bad habits in the process. As a matter of fact, some people are obsessed with their role models, they do not realise when they are adopting their bad habits or even vices. Having said this, how can an admirer or a mentee avoid being at disadvantage? By having a Standard, ofcourse. Yes, a Standard.
YOU SHOULD HAVE A STANDARD
In order to avoid falling into this trap, it is imperative to have had a good standard before having a role model or mentor. Having a standard first cannot be over emphasised, because role models and mentors are human beings who are fallible, and what helps a mentee not to be at a disadvantage, when he/she notices an anormally, is his/her standard. It is best to just focus on the role model or mentor’s positive sides, and ignore the negative.
However, if the role model / mentor’s negatives are detrimental to the mentee’s health, life, career, or even reputation, it is best to quit that mentor-mentee relationship.
It is however noteworthy, that there are people who neither have a role model nor a mentor. This will be explained in the next sub topic.
I DO NOT HAVE A ROLE MODEL / MENTOR… SO WHAT??
Must everyone have a role model / a mentor? Definitely No!! Well, the audio you are about to listen to will explain why some people do not have a role /model or a mentor.
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AUDIO 2
In conclusion, role models and mentors have their different roles to play in the lives of people who look up to them.
Having a “good” standard before looking up to a role model or a mentor, is essential. This will help in being on track, or knowing when to quit the relationship, when certain things are at stake.
Finally, not everyone has or sees the need to have a role model or a mentor, at least at the moment, and guess what?? It is totally fine!!
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